Woman molested by babysitter as a child says trial process was as bad as him abusing her again

The woman said she was ‘ripped apart to prove I was telling the truth’. She said: ‘I got lucky – thankfully they believed me’

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A woman who was molested by a man who regularly babysat her has told a court that going through the trial process was as bad as the man abusing her again.

The 52-year-old Longford man, who can’t be named to protect the anonymity of the victim, was found guilty of 52 counts of sexual assault following a Central Criminal Court trial held in Co. Longford last November.

The abuse occurred on dates between 2004 and 2006, when the victim was aged between 10 and 12 and the man was in his early 30s.

The man was known to the girl’s family and he would often babysit her and her siblings. The court heard during a previous sentence hearing that the man had given the young girl his phone number and would often give her gifts of sweets and soft drinks.

The man would also put on pornography when he was babysitting and make the girl watch it with him

The sexual assaults included touching the girl’s breasts and vagina. The man would also put her hand on his penis. The abuse occurred frequently over the two-year period and on one occasion, a younger sibling walked in while the girl was being sexually assaulted. Mr Justice David Keane handed the man a nine-year prison sentence.

At a previous sentence hearing last month, the victim indicated through a victim impact statement that she struggled to give the evidence at trial before two teams of lawyers and 12 strangers. She said she was “ripped apart to prove I was telling the truth”.

“I got lucky – thankfully they believed me,” she said. She said the man putting her through the trial was “as bad as abusing me again”.

She spoke of how in the aftermath of the abuse nothing was right with her, outlining inappropriate relationships and drug taking. She said she felt herself “unworthy of love”.

She said no matter how many years the man gets as a prison term it will never “fix things” for her. “What he has done will never leave me,” she continued.

“Now all I do is doubt that I will ever be ok. I can’t walk the streets without feeling dirty,” the woman continued, before adding that she struggles to trust herself.

She said she perfected the “fake smile, fake happy” and thinks about the person she could have been. She described herself as a shell of a person. “I am lucky I had people willing to listen to me. It never stops affecting your life,” she said.

He commended the victim for her resilience and courage in preserving with the trial process and expressed the hope that the jury’s verdict would assist her recovery.

He said other aggravating factors include the age disparity, the pattern of frequent assaults and the manipulation and grooming of the child. He further noted that the man does not accept the jury’s verdict and has demonstrated no remorse.

Mr Justice Keane added that the man had expressed sorrow that the victim had to go through the trial process, but said he could give this little weight because this position is difficult to reconcile with the man’s denial of the offences.

He said he would give the man credit for a period of “good behaviour” between 2006 and 2020, his co-operation with gardaí during the investigation and personal circumstances. The judge noted that the man has issues with alcohol, but has not sought treatment nor attended psychological services while in custody.

Mr Justice Keane set a headline sentence of 10 years, which he reduced to nine years, taking the mitigation into account. He declined to suspend any portion of the sentence and imposed a two-year period of post-release supervision.